With the digital world and social media being a constant and loud noise, it's easy to think most, if not all people around us have it great, and possibly even better than ourselves. That's a bit of a myth, and the reality couldn't be further from the truth.
I wanted to take a moment to reflect on this noise and be a bit real about how tough and challenging it really is to run a business. This isn't about honing in on the negatives, but the reality is with business comes challenges that we as business owners face on a daily basis. A clear message I want to relay is that many of us face shared experiences which should be seen as a positive in knowing that where we often feel isolated, so do many others who we will have similar thoughts, feelings and the same challenges.
Whether you are freelance, working solo or have a multi million business, the biggest thing we all have in common is more than likely the loneliness that comes with being a business owner. We all face multiple challenges be it cash flow, recruitment issues, working in isolation, impost syndrome, weeks or days sometimes months of feelings things are just not going to plan. And then of course we are also shouldering what staff and clients might also be challenged with.
Working with multiple business owners I often get front row insight into their journeys. All very individual, off doing their own business venture with their own flair. But I see the self doubt creep in every now and then on varying levels and intensity, and I can empathise with this. The raw truth is I feel it too sometimes.
I'm also just as guilty as the next person in comparing myself and my achievements against peers, and can often find myself looking at social media with a hint of jealousy, my brain automatically buying into the myth that everyone else is doing so much better than me. But it's just that, a myth. We are all on our own journey and must remind ourselves not to pit ourself against peers or competitors.
The hard truth is that starting and running a business is incredibly difficult and will always have its challenges. Many start-ups don't make it past the first few years, and if you do make it the journey can still takes its toll on your mental health. It's so important to be self aware and take notice of any signs that you might need a bit of help. Having a support structure be it family, friends or professional help is so important for your wellbeing, but also future proofing you and your business. I provide support in varying ways to clients but who supports me? I'm incredibly privileged to have an amazing emotional intelligence coach who helps me both personally and professional wade through the challenges and helps me to build up a tool kit to help myself.
It's ok to make mistakes, seek help, have good and bad days. That's how we evolve, pivot and build resilience, but also how we become a better version of ourselves.
It's ok to not be ok.
Kate Baines
kate@virtualprestige.co.uk
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